The language of love is a bit complex. In order to maintain a strong relationship, both partners should understand each other's love language. In the book 'The 5 Love Languages', written by Gary Chapman, the author has shared some fabulous tips to maintain a good relationship. Let's see what are those.
Love is a Human Need
We all need love. That is non-negotiable. It is a universal goal for humans. Love is unique for everyone. In Gary's words, love is related to our emotional fulfillment. For some people, love is towards people, for others, it is towards some activities or items. The point is, we all need love.
Communication is Essential
The author talks about the first stage of a relationship and names it in-human phenomenon. In this phase, people are obsessed with love, and they will have an urge to spend the whole time together, and this is because of the evolutionary drive to reproduce. Anyway, after a point, this enthusiasm fades away and the couples will struggle to maintain their romantic relationship.
To solve this problem, Gary is advising to talk, to communicate. We need to open up ourselves and need to talk more. This will help to maintain that emotional fulfillment. And that is love is all about.
Understand Your Partner's Love Language
As we said earlier, love is unique for everyone and everyone has a unique love language. You need to observe your partner well and understand their love language. How they feel love and how they express love. Then, act how they wish.
Quality Time is Time Well Spent
In today's life, it is easy to get distracted from our love life because of technology. We should spend more quality time with our life partner in order to strengthen the relationship. Talk more, go to the park together, gardening, prepare food, etc. So when you look back, you will have good memories.
Surprise Your Partner with Gifts
Gary describes gifts as visual symbols of love. And it is more effective if the gifts are given as surprise. The price and size of the gift doesn't matter. What matters is the idea of giving gifts. Giving gifts is a good way to express your love.
Physical Touch is a Powerful Sign of Affection
Physical touch is an important thing in love. Suppose, your partner's primary love language is psycial touch, then you should do such things like holding her hands, kissing, hugging, sex etc. You need to do what makes her or him comfortable.
Express Your Love through Work
If your partner doesn't love to do a task, then you cand do it for her or him. Do it without even asking, it makes much better. It conveys that you do care for that person. And here forget about the traditional gender roles and be a real man and a real woman.
So that's it. These are some key points from this books. You can purchase this book from here.
